Children : Parent's Reflection

Event 1
A mother complained about her first child, a six-years-old daughter, didn't want to share anything with her four-years-old brother. She yelled at her daughter, that how bad her behaviour, in front of the others mom.


Event 2
Almost every single day, the brother went out with his mom. The sister often stay at home, alone. EVERY DAY?



Event 3
Finally that odd events was revealed in the afternoon, when the mother was about to leave out the house. She called her son who was playing outside the house, "My son, will you go with me?". The sister who also was playing with him, spontaneously ran toward her mother, want to go with his mom, too.
The mother yelled, "Why did you go with us? Just stay here!"


.:. So, you know why the girl was behaving like the first event, do you?

(TRUE STORY FROM MY NEIGHBOURHOOD)

From the story above, we all can conclude that, actually children only a REFLECTION of the parents. Before we ask why our children do not behave as we expect, we should first question ourselves, whether we have acted like our children had hoped? Are kids just give a reaction from the action of the parents, are they?

Is it wrong when the sister who thinks that she was ignored by his mother avenged her dissatisfaction to her brother? Only to be noticed by her mom?

Hopefully this become a lesson for us to be parents who are wiser and fairer in raising and educating children.



It's not only children who grow.  Parents do too.  As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours.  I can't tell my children to reach for the sun.  All I can do is reach for it, myself.  ~Joyce Maynard


If there is anything that we wish to change in the child, we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could better be changed in ourselves.  ~ C.G. Jung, Integration of the Personality, 1939


If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

~ Dorothy Law Nolte